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Verity Mansfield

Relationship Coach

Relationship Coach Verity Mansfield specialises
in relationship counselling with a difference!

About Me

You know the feeling where you just want to scream? Where you just want to feel heard, acknowledged, appreciated? Like you just fucking matter? You’re there for everybody else. You’re doing everything on your own. You’re exhausted. You’re tired and some days you just don’t want to be here at all.

A few years ago I found myself curled up on the bottom of the shower floor, gut-wrenchingly hysterically sobbing. Praying the thundering water would drown out my tears so my kids wouldn’t hear me fall apart. I’d spent the last two years torturing myself whether to stay or go. I didn’t want to hurt him but my marriage was slowly killing me. I felt starved of affection and connection. I was exhausted navigating landmines, tip toeing on eggshells trying to figure out how to communicate my needs in a way that wouldn’t shut him down.

The more I tried to fix our relationship , the worse it got. Finally I begged him to go to counselling and yet 6 months later it all fell apart. And there I was on the floor of the shower. I didn’t feel broken. I felt destroyed. My marriage was falling apart. My kids were not getting the best of their mother. I was making monumental mistakes at work. I couldn’t focus. I felt disappointed, disconnected and dead inside. Something had to give or I was going to explode. So I hit the ‘emergency’ button. I walked out of my marriage and out of my international fashion career without looking back. I plunged into the darkness of the unknown with two toddlers, a mortgage and $136 cash.

It took me a number of years and quite a few martinis, amazing girlfriends, books, courses, diplomas, relationships,and soul searching to finally understand what it takes to turn a struggling relationship into a powerful and passionate partnership. A partnership that nourishes both your souls as you grow together.
Without dragging your partner to a single therapy session!

“Verity’s authenticity and openness models a pure way of being and shows that vulnerability, compassion and gratitude has the power to manifest and draw what we desire into our lives”.

About You

Your relationship is in crisis. Do you stay or do you go?
You spend sleepless nights wondering how to turn the boat around. Wondering how to get him to step up. To listen. You love him but you know you can’t go on like this. It’s soul destroying. It’s not working for you, and it can’t be working for him either. And it’s certainly not healthy for the kids. You crave to be understood, to have your needs and feelings witnessed and to somehow communicate with him in a way that doesn’t shut him down. Or blow up in your face. You wish you could resolve those arguments instead of constantly running in circles hitting your head against some invisible brick wall. You dream about what it’d be like to have the fun back, to feel that vitality that young love brings. To feel deeply connected. The two of you standing strong together against the storms instead of feeling like the storms keep tearing you apart.

“I worried that I did not somehow deserve love and respect, that I was too demanding or difficult. Now I know that that isn’t true. I know what I want and I know how to create it”

– Narelle.

About you & Me - Him

When we stop demanding that our relationship should exist to make us happy, and instead accept that our relationship exists to reflect back our truths, our wounds, and our healing – only then can we truly learn to love unconditionally. Only when we’ve learnt to cast a light onto the darkest shadows within ourselves, can we truly understand how to create a sacred space for our partners to see the light within themselves. When you transform the relationship you have with yourself, you naturally transform the relationship you have with your partner. And powerfully.
When we grow, they grow. When we learn, they learn.
When we rise, we inspire and can invite them to rise with us – without having to drag them to therapy.

“It’s the strangest thing. He has probably only apologised twice in the past 7yrs, and yet just this week He’s apologised 3 times. And I didn’t even ask him for it”.

– Bec

Book your free

30 minute consult

Nothing gets fixed in a 15 minute “discovery call”, right? That’s why I offer a no-obligation free 30 minute consult. You’ll experience how I work, and get a good sense of what we could achieve by working together. And if you feel you’ve got enough from our consult to go ahead and make some changes on your own, that’s totally cool.

“The work done with Verity is deep and challenging . I am more conscious of what I am doing in my
relationships and feel empowered and better equipped to navigate life and it’s challenges without falling
into the trap of past patterning or self-sabotaging internal stories”.
“The work done with Verity is deep and challenging . I am more conscious of what I am doing in my
relationships and feel empowered and better equipped to navigate life and it’s challenges without falling
into the trap of past patterning or self-sabotaging internal stories”.
“The work done with Verity is deep and challenging . I am more conscious of what I am doing in my
relationships and feel empowered and better equipped to navigate life and it’s challenges without falling
into the trap of past patterning or self-sabotaging internal stories”.

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