What happened to the sisterhood?
I went to a small cocktail party on the weekend that consisted of about 20 women. We laughed, shared stories, gave one woman some incredible support as she admitted to some tough times we was experiencing and cheered on another friend who just got engaged, and another who just started a new job opportunity. When I left this party 5 hours and 6 martinis later, I felt such a massive surge of love and respect for these women, of which the majority of them I had only met that night. Which left me thinking….. What happened to the sisterhood?
There’s been numerous times through my working life, parenting life and now divorced single life I’ve come across numerous women who are criticise others for lifestyles choices and parenting styles, act cliquey, gossip about another’s downfall, judge another women on her appearance, weight, clothing or hairstyle and generally are more interested in tearing other women down instead of building each other up.
There’s a big difference between a woman who is confident in her own authenticity and self-worth, and a woman who is too willing to step on their fellow sister.
How can each of us start bringing back the Sisterhood?
So here’s how to become an empowering woman, and not just a gossipy girl. Here’s bringing back the Sisterhood!
- Celebrate other women.
When a girl friend is down give her a shoulder to cry on; give her a good pair of ears; pour her a glass of wine. When a girl friend is flying high, celebrate her successes. Let her inspire you and bewilder you. Find the beauty in other women, knowing that if they can achieve something, so can you.
- Listen instead of judge.
When a girlfriend makes a mistake – it’s not your job to judge her. As a friend, it is your job to listen to her. If she knows she’s made a mistake, she deserves to be heard and not judged. And if she has the courage to apologise have the courage to forgive. After all, we are all human, and we all make mistakes.
- Be wary of the media glorifying drama.
Drama may be fun to watch, but it in no way is fun to live. Drama is exhausting. If you love watching those reality TV shows where women point and mock other women, be wary of those actions. And remember that you are better than that. Squashing someone to make yourself feel better is a serious sign you’re suffering from low self-esteem.
- If you run with dogs…
There’s a saying that goes, “if you run with dogs, you will get fleas.” This saying basically means if you associate with negative people, you will acquire their faults. Surround yourself with positive genuine women who will light you up, and in turn you will then light them up too. You’re only as good as who you surround yourself with and you’ll find yourself in the midst of an awe-inspiring sisterhood.
- It’s time to get realistic about role models.
What celebrities you look up to says a lot about morals and values. The Kim Kardashian’s and Miley Cyrus’s of the world are talented and beautiful and business savvy. But women like Jennifer Lawrence, Emma Watson and Angelina Jolie give more than just beauty and brains. They teach the world about empowerment, authenticity, empathy and social justice. Look up to those who speak out in the world for the better of society, who speak out for other women and not just for the betterment of themselves.
Soul Sisters, as authentic women, accept that they are not perfect; they have a sense of humour, they exude confidence from within, they allow themselves to be vulnerable enough to ask for help, they have compassion to help and support other women and most importantly they can celebrate other women without worrying that it will take away from their own magnificence. These women know how to create a sisterhood, a sisterhood of unconditional love, celebration and sustenance. After all, “Behind every successful woman is a tribe of women who have her back.”
If you feel you’d love to be part of the Sisterhood you can join “The Beautiful World of Women“. This is a Facebook group of women devoted to supporting each other and sharing their stories, wisdom and knowledge. Each day has a theme, to encourage you to share the love throughout the week.
For more inspiration sign up to “Notes from A Beautiful Truth“, a monthly dose of love, beauty and inspiration.
Stay beautiful xx
#bebeautiful #betrue #abeautifultruth #thetruthaboutbeauty