Relationship Coach

Relationship Coach Verity Mansfield specialises in relationship counselling with a difference!

Transform your relationship without dragging your partner along.

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    A Relationship Coach with a difference

    Do you have problems in your relationship?

    Are there things about your partner that drive you mad?

    Maybe you feel that all the effort in your relationship is coming from you and you’re getting nothing back from them?

    I hear you. I’ve been there. And I can help you turn your relationship around.

    “Why AM I different?”

    I’m not your “normal” relationship coach. You won’t need to drag your reluctant partner to sessions where he’ll sit there with his arms crossed, legs crossed and eyes crossed!

    Have you tried that already?

    You see, most men aren’t great at being vulnerable in front of a total stranger and spilling their emotional guts because their wife/partner told them they have to. So when they’re dragged into a therapy session they’re reluctant to share – which adds to your frustration.
    And often the therapy session deteriorates into a point scoring competition – ”Remember when you did this?” “Yes but you did this!” – and on and on and on, with criticism, blame and judgement.

    “You’re listening to me but you’re not hearing me!”

    So, Let’s throw that stuff out right away! The only person your partner needs to turn inwards to and be vulnerable with isn’t a therapist – it’s you.

    You don’t need to bring your partner. You just need to bring beautiful, open-hearted you.

    Revolutionise your Relationship

    It’s time to transition out of that traditional patriarchal style of relationship into a more connected relational style of relationship.
    The patriarchal relationship is competitive – so there has to be a winner and a loser. “I’m right, so, you have to be wrong.” “Had a bad day? Well, mine was worse.” Its ego driven – “My needs matter the most. Change who you are so I can be happy!”

    Great relationships aren’t stumbled upon, great relationships are consciously created.

    My work is about revolutionising your relationship, and consciously creating a powerful passionate partnership where happiness and love are the priorities.

    • Finding the win-win, so no one has to lose.
    • Collaborating and managing – not fixing.
    • Being open and expansive.
    • Having a mindset of “What am I learning from this?” rather than “What am I getting out of this?.
    • Learning how to lead and guide your partner gracefully and powerfully without nagging, whining or feeling like ‘a bitch’.
    • All the while falling back in love with yourself and your relationship.

    Learn more about how to turn your relationship around without dragging your partner to therapy.

    Why me?

    I’ve been there. I’ve dragged my partner to therapy, I’ve been divorced, I’ve drank the Martinis, I’ve learned from different relationships what works and what doesn’t.
    I’ve studied psychology, counselling and life coaching and even A Course In Miracles. As a relationship coach I bring not only the skills and knowledge I’ve acquired, including the collective wisdom of my mentors and teachers, but also my vast lived experience.

    Because guess what? The choice is always yours; You can choose to contribute to the collapse of your relationship, or you can choose to contribute to the recovery. What do you choose?

    Let's start to rebuild the foundations of your relationship.

    The Relationship Toolbox is a FREE 5 Day Challenge where you’ll get practical and valuable tools & invaluable wisdom on how to transform your relationship into a healthy, happy, passionate, and powerful partnership!

    You can do the challenge on your own or with your partner.
    You’ll receive;

    • A welcome email explaining how to prepare for the Relationship Toolbox 5 Day Challenge.
    • One email over each of the 5 days with the audio teaching, downloadable PDF worksheet, and the daily activity.
    • Access to my private FB community to share your journey,
      and ask questions
    Day 1
    Creating Safe Relational Space

    Learn how to create a safe space for your partner to grow and learn about you without criticism or judgment.

    Day 2
    Boundaries, Walls and Self Sabotage
    How to create firm and loving boundaries without rejecting your partner with ‘or’ sabotaging your relationship.
    Day 3
    Effective Communication
    Discover where your communication strategies come from and how to communicate effectively in a way that lets you be truly heard & seen.
    Day 4
    Repairing Relationships
    Understand how to heal and use conflict to actually deepen the trust & connection in your relationship.
    Day 5
    Maintaining Harmonious Relationships
    Learn how to extend the loving times and how to continue to create magic in
    your relationship.
    “The work done with Verity is deep and challenging . I am more conscious of what I am doing in my
    relationships and feel empowered and better equipped to navigate life and it’s challenges without falling
    into the trap of past patterning or self-sabotaging internal stories”.
    “The work done with Verity is deep and challenging . I am more conscious of what I am doing in my
    relationships and feel empowered and better equipped to navigate life and it’s challenges without falling
    into the trap of past patterning or self-sabotaging internal stories”.
    “The work done with Verity is deep and challenging . I am more conscious of what I am doing in my
    relationships and feel empowered and better equipped to navigate life and it’s challenges without falling
    into the trap of past patterning or self-sabotaging internal stories”.

    Sick of boring newsletters clogging up your inbox? Me too!

    My weekly #truthbombs – Life, love and relationships in the 21st Century are a dash of inspo, inspired by those times when you either light up with a joyous ‘aha’ moment, or you sink back, head in your hands and have an ‘oh shit’ moment while reaching for the wine. While we all carry our own truths, there are just some truths that none of us can ignore. This is my way of sharing all the collective wisdom inspired by my own vast life experiences and that of my own mentors & teachers over the years, and delivering it right into your in-box.

    Acknowledgement of Country

    I acknowledge and respect the Whadjuk people of the Noongar Boodjar, the Custodians of this incredible & unique land with all its
    glorious flora, fauna and landscapes.
    I pay my respects to the Noongar Elders, past, present and future beyond time, and honour their wisdom, love, & connection to land, sea and culture, and hope that we can all uphold and learn from the immense knowledge and wisdom of the Whadjuk people.
    But we must also acknowledge all the past tragedies, pain and losses forced upon all Aboriginal people across all countries since
    colonialism and acknowledge that sovereignty of this land has never been ceded. We can’t keep sweeping it under the carpet and we must, just like in our
    everyday relationships, create an intention to understand, respect, and repair our relationships and stand as allies to all Aboriginal people across all countries.
    I ask that we no longer accept, tolerate or remain quiet amongst any notions of racism,
    separation, abuse, injustice or discrimination.
    My hope is that we find a way to walk forward as allies with truth, beauty and love in our hearts for ourselves and for each other
    regardless of race, age, gender or sexual identity, with a common purpose which allows each of us to thrive as equals.
    We can not change the past, but may we rise together to create a future Australia built on the foundations of love, compassion,
    respect and joy.